Tag: Confidence
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I don’t need to know the ending, anyhow
Almost two months ago, I wrote what I believe to be one of my best pieces. Inspired by (literally) the world’s most beautiful song, I wrote about how sometimes the future you imagine for yourself isn’t the way the present plays out, causing you to change course. -> Phases of the Moon I’ve always been…
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Sharing is caring
Why is it so difficult to talk about ourselves? Why do we hate sharing? Are we worried that others will judge us? Do we want to avoid the worst trait in the world – being a bragger? (actually something underratedly valuable). Are we worried that they’ll feel some sort of resentment? Are we worried that…
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Scanning for opportunities
I hate binaries. But to some extent, I believe there are two types of people in this world. Those that scan for opportunities. And those that scan for problems. Let me tell you one thing right off the top here. Don’t be the one that scans for problems. Those are the people that always drain…
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Life lessons from The Masked Singer
If you’ve never checked out The Masked Singer, you are missing out. Not only is it a fun, feel-good show. It’s also one that constantly brings good vibes, and reminds us of the power of keeping things positive and how that can create such a special environment for everyone to excel.
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Better if you do
I’ve been told a lot of things this year. Toward the top of the list is an oh so familiar phrase that I never want to hear again. “I didn’t want to bother you.” Why do we always feel like we’re bothering the people around us by asking questions? By engaging? By being part of…
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The power of naming your greatest accomplishments
“Feel the rain on your skin. No one else can feel it for you.” – Unwritten, Natasha Bedingfield Let’s face it. Even those of us that reflect on the daily, don’t reflect enough. Sure, you might reflect upon the day. What you’re thankful for. What you’re looking forward to. How you’re going to overcome those…
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I’m already Batman
In 2016, Dr. Stephanie Carlson of the University of Minnesota put together a fascinating study. The study worked like this: You put a toy in a box. You give 4-year-old children a set of keys to open the box and retrieve the toy. None of the keys actually work. You then tell those children to…
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The best way to build confidence in others
In dozens of different articles on this website, I’ve written about how competence naturally breeds confidence. I’ve also mentioned how confidence naturally breeds competence. If we do something frequently enough, over an extended period of time, we will naturally become better. We might even master it. As that process unfolds, we will grow our own…
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Visualization and race-specific training
I’ve always had a wild imagination. Growing up, I’d play hockey and soccer in my basement for hours on end. Every single time, I’d visualize being the best in the world. I’d break all the records, score the wildest of goals, and mesmerize the commentators every time. When I quit hockey at age 12 and…
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The power of reframing negative thoughts
As the self-conscious individuals that we are, it’s impossible to go an entire day with zero negative thoughts entering the mind. Despite the difficulty of that task, I used to subscribe to a ‘no-negativity’ mindset. It’s incredibly important to always think on the bright side and come up with the positives in any situation, but…
Rhys Desmond 