I’ve been told a lot of things this year. Toward the top of the list is an oh so familiar phrase that I never want to hear again. “I didn’t want to bother you.”

Why do we always feel like we’re bothering the people around us by asking questions? By engaging? By being part of their lives? We all crave human connection. We all want to feel the love from others. We all want to help.

At least, I do.

I love talking to my friends. I love feeling the love. I love helping others in any capacity.

It is so beautiful when someone takes the time to call me, to send me a message, or simply to say hi. It never bothers me. It’s always a highlight of my day.

So stop thinking that you’re bothering people by talking to them. Stop thinking that it’s better if you don’t say anything at all. It’s always better if you do.

It’s always better if you do take action, rather than sit on the fence and split your shorts. We rarely ever regret the decisions that we make. We rarely ever regret the actions that we take. But so often, we genuinely regret the decisions we didn’t make. We regret what we didn’t do. We regret the result of our inactions.

It’s always better to take the leap. To actually take action. To go after what you want. If the answer is no, at least now you know. If the answer is truly that you’re bothering someone, maybe they’re not the type of friend that you want to have by your side.

Believe me, this mindset gets me into trouble. All the time. I’m constantly taking action and throwing myself into high-risk situations for the sake of something possibly working out. I’m completely cool with living a life full of risk. It’s more fun that way.

But more importantly, I’m so much more likely to achieve what I want out of life because I’m never afraid to go after what I want. I’m never afraid to take the leap that others might be afraid to take. I never shy away from the difficult conversations. From the uncomfortable. From the unfamiliar. Living life this way gives me confidence to be better every single day.

Part of that stems from continuously putting myself in uncomfortable situations over time. Very few things actually faze me. I had an uncomfortable childhood. I’ve had several uncomfortable relationships. Especially with superiors in work settings. I never shy away from taking the necessary actions I deem fit to improve my situation. I wouldn’t be writing to you without this mindset.

This is how I’ve grown as a person. How I’ve achieved my wildest ambitions before the age of 30. How I created a world leading soccer website that went global and grand-scale in collaborating with professional clubs, players, and coaches. How I started teaching at a university at 25. I take chances. I take risks. I take action. Sometimes I get nowhere. Sometimes I find myself rejected.

But it doesn’t matter. You would so much rather know the answer is one of rejection, than never know the answer at all. Keep trying. Keep putting yourself out there. Live a life full of freedom, rather than fear.

So remember. It’s never better if you don’t. It’s always better if you do.

Thanks for reading and see you soon!