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Why I quit sports before the age of thirteen
I quit hockey and basketball before the age of 13. 70% of children in North America do the same. Yet still, coaches, “leaders”, and even parents make the same mistakes over and over. They create an environment that de-emphasizes fun and fulfillment. They emphasize all the wrong things instead. Winning. Pressure to perform to one’s…
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You always have time
I’ve stopped doing something recently. I’ve stopped telling people how busy I am. I’ve stopped bragging about being busy. The truth is, we’re all busy. I mean, I’m sure there are some people that don’t fill their cups all the way to the top, and spend some of the day feeling a lack of meaning…
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The power of naming your greatest accomplishments
“Feel the rain on your skin. No one else can feel it for you.” – Unwritten, Natasha Bedingfield Let’s face it. Even those of us that reflect on the daily, don’t reflect enough. Sure, you might reflect upon the day. What you’re thankful for. What you’re looking forward to. How you’re going to overcome those…
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Covering up the poison with poetry
“You cover up the poison, with poetry.” – Goodbye, Echosmith We all know those guys. The ones that do all the wrong things. But cover it up by saying all the right things. The smooth talkers. You know the ones. Truthfully, that’s what this lyric is about. But it’s a beautiful line that I haven’t…
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I’m already Batman
In 2016, Dr. Stephanie Carlson of the University of Minnesota put together a fascinating study. The study worked like this: You put a toy in a box. You give 4-year-old children a set of keys to open the box and retrieve the toy. None of the keys actually work. You then tell those children to…
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Move on, we’re not seventeen
“Move on, we’re not seventeen.” – Slide Away, Miley Cyrus About a month after leaving the best job I ever had, I met with probably the best boss I’ve ever had to discuss potential ways of coming back. One thing from that conversation has always stuck with me. “You never make up your mind.” To…
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The best way to build confidence in others
In dozens of different articles on this website, I’ve written about how competence naturally breeds confidence. I’ve also mentioned how confidence naturally breeds competence. If we do something frequently enough, over an extended period of time, we will naturally become better. We might even master it. As that process unfolds, we will grow our own…
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Why hard work should never be at the expense of enjoyment
Rihanna loves work. She sang about it that one time. She repeated that line six times. David Goggins and his disciples feel the same as Rihanna’s song. Work, work, work, work, work. If you work hard and stay disciplined, you will achieve your goals. That’s the only way of living life. To work hard. Hard…
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How I improved my writing over the past 8 years
With everything that we do in life, the more we do it, the better we get. Especially when it continues to feel intrinsically motivating, and play rather than work. I’ve seen this with my own writing over the years, typically having a hard time looking a 2017 article in the eye. With that, here are…
Rhys Desmond
Training Theory & Coaching
Rhys Desmond 